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Sod the Odds

October 28, 2009

1st Aug 2007

At some point yesterday it dawned on us that we had less time than we thought. The statistics re survival rates for different cancers take as their starting point for calculation, the date of diagnosis. Since 3 months had already elapsed since Mrs D was discovered to have cancer, that meant that without treatment she had only a 10% chance then of being alive in 9 months time.

grapes_and_glass_image200We opened another bottle of Merlot !

I have been in this situation before. Many years ago I emigrated to Canada and whilst there I met a girl who was originally from Glasgow. To cut a long story short, we became close friends.

One night, I found her unconscious on the floor. Following tests it was found she had a brain tumour. It was too large and located too deep in the brain for doctors to remove it. Their best estimate was she had less than 2 weeks to live. I arranged to have her scans sent to a neurologist in Glasgow. He agreed with the Canadian doctors assessment so I had her parents grant me Power of Attorney to enable me to settle her affairs in Canada and bring her home to Scotland to die. With no treatment possible, the doctors put her on steroids and morphine to ease the pressure in her brain and make her last few days as pain-free as possible. She died 8 years later !!!

I reminded Mrs D about Heather – pointed out how she had beaten all the medical predictions. No reason then why she shouldn’t do likewise. O.K. only a tiny minority of folk in her condition were still alive 12 month after the cancer was confirmed – but someone had to be in that small minority and there was no reason why it shouldn’t be her. I couldn’t guarantee to give her another 8 years like Heather but I was damn sure she was NOT going to die in the next few months. We would fight this together.

We decided we would not let the cancer take over our lives. We would make no concession to the disease. Instead, we would ignore it and just carry on as normal. So when we had finished the 2nd bottle of Merlot Mrs D walked down to the Off Licence with me to get some more booze. Just like normal !!!

10 Comments leave one →
  1. October 28, 2009 8:14 am

    Statistics apply to large groups of people, not to individuals. Having said that, EIGHT YEARS must be a bit of a record. Should mean that MrsD goes on for, what, another 20 years?

  2. October 28, 2009 4:18 pm

    Doctors only know so much. Mother nature knows all.

    • October 28, 2009 7:57 pm

      Important not to believe everything doctors tell you, YnB – else it becomes a self-fulfilling prophesy.

      If a doctor says you’ve only got days or weeks left to live it’s bound to knock the wind out of your sails. Danger then is you stop fighting and the doctor’s prediction then comes true.

  3. October 28, 2009 5:21 pm

    It looks as if you’ve got enough wine to hold you over for a bit….

    • October 28, 2009 7:40 pm

      not for as long as you might think, DF – Mrs D drinks like a fish !!! 😉

  4. Lynn permalink
    October 29, 2009 12:50 am

    i am always nervous when i peruse this site. i fear the worst but hope for the best. i have had my share of chronic health issues. i also have a tumor in my brain, thankfully not cancer most probably due to a rheumatic/autoimmune disease i was diagnosed with previously. i get regular MRIs and it has since remained stable. my sincere warm wishes go out to you and i will keep popping over to see what you have to say.

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